Guarding your heart and closing your heart is two different things. Some people seem to think guarding your heart means protecting yourself from getting hurt. Well the only way you can protect yourserlf from getting hurt is a coffin. If your walking and breathing guess what? You will get hurt. If you are in ministry guess what? You will get hurt. There is no way out of it. Loving people will get you hurt. When we start guarding our hurts we can run the risk of closing our hearts to the people that matter the most.
The most valuable asset you have is your heart, it will bring life to your marriage, your family and to the ministry. Your heart when filled with God of potential and possibilities will produce people with potential and possibilities. Closing it down for business is bad for business.
Here are some signs of a closed heart.
1- They are distant and aloof. A wall is up, they have fenced everyone out. Getting in will take time, and a whole lot of mercy and patience.
2- There is no connections. No real connections to people. They are alone and prefer to be alone. It’s safer.
3 – There is no real communications. After a while communication skills shut down. You will find them without a voice and struggling to find it.
4 – They start fending for themselves, becoming self sustaining which reeks of pride. Unwilling to ask for help.
6 – They become demanding, demanding obedience, demanding submission, demanding perfection.
7 – Their oppression will be felt by everyone. People around them will feel oppressed. A good way to describe oppression is nothing getting in and nothing getting out.